Now I know that may sound pathetic, but it is actually a good thing.  Tami and I were fighting a lot and seeing her with another man (in the same house), after ten years together, is just too tough.  Look at my current situation as a small stepping stone.  Kathy (mother-in-law) is not charging rent (just have to buy my food) and I am out of that situation.  So, for how long will I be mooching some may asking (3 months).  Then I am moving back up North.  I will be living with my brother in Dor...
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So you have noticed that my blog is a bit personal, but the true meaning of blog is just that.

Tami and I married on March 19, 2004, but we have been pretty much tied at the hip since August 2001.  So, for a bond like that to fall apart is hard no matter how you look at it.  We pretty much both began falling out of love, slowly, 4 years ago.  She started saying how we needed to fix this about us or needed to do that, but it fell on deaf ears.  It's not that I did not want to fix those things, ...
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On the morning of April 27, 2010.  John had a really rough night, though at this point he was too out of it to know.  He was fighting so hard to live although death was surely eminent.  We had to re-dress and clean him and his bed as his fluids had left his body (from the liver failure).  It was an awful experience.  After helping my mother-in-law, sister-in-law, and wife handle this situation I went to work.  Though I did not want to, as I knew something felt off, I went to work.

At work I ha...
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So obviously this whole ordeal is agonizing, but it is the most difficult for my mother-in-law...Kathy.  Kathy is suffering like I have never seen someone suffer.  It's not that I don't think she should be suffering, or is suffering too much- it's more that it hurts to see her this way.  

She is constantly staring through the sliding glass window where he is sleeping waiting for him to die.  It is so sad.  I was I could take her pain away.  As John has become sicker and sicker she has been in...
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So, as days pass by he is closer to moving on.  His body has retained even more fluid now and he is no longer relieving himself.  Today he wouldn't evn leave his wheelchair all day, which was over 9 hours, until I came home for work.  He doesn't trust anyone to lift him except me.  Although that is sad, it is also an honor, as he doesn't trust many people at all.  By the time I finally was able to lift him into bed his body was so tight from being frozen in one position for so long.  He is al...
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My father in law, who is a very strong willed and proud man is sitting at the stairway to heaven.  A little over nine years ago, when I first met him, I never would have thought I would be so deeply connected to him.  When I first met him he was big, but not in the way of fat or anything, just intimidating in a way.  The way he carried himself was very large and in charge.  In the beginning he used to sleep for about 6 hours and then go to work around 11 at night.  When he arrived home around...
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